How to be a parent coach ?
How to be a parent coach
When you're a new parent, it can be hard to find time for yourself. You have your partner and other family members that want your attention, the baby who needs constant care, and the house that never seems to get clean. It's important not to neglect yourself as well as your relationship with your child- if you don't nurture them now, they may grow up feeling neglected or resentful towards you. So here are some ways in which you can nurture both of these relationships:
- Spend time with your children
It's no secret that kids grow up way too fast. And the time you have to spend with them is often limited, so it's important to make the most of every moment. There are all sorts of things you can do – from playing board games and reading books together, to going on bike rides and taking nature walks. One thing I always loved doing was sitting in a rocking chair with my daughter at bedtime or before she went to sleep for a nap so we could cuddle and rock back and forth together while talking about her day or what we were excited for tomorrow. Sometimes these moments are tough because they're trying their best not to fall asleep, but I think it's worth giving them your full attention as much as possible
- Listen to what they have to say
"Kids say the darnest things." Well, that's what they say. But it doesn't stop there! They do the darnedest of things too. Listen to some of these kids and their hilarious first-hand accounts and learn more about them then you ever thought possible.
- Give them space and independence while still staying involved in their lives
Kids need space to grow and develop. They also need independence, which is something they won't get if you're constantly hovering over them." Give your kids the opportunity to explore and learn on their own while still being present in the lives of your children. Setting boundaries with our kids doesn't mean we don't care about them. It means we are showing that we trust them by giving them some space to make mistakes.
- Encourage hobbies that interest them, even if you don't understand it or like the hobby yourself
It is important to encourage hobbies that interest your kids because they may not know what they are interested in until you introduce them. This will help keep their mind active and it will give them a chance to explore new things. One of the best ways to introduce new interests is by visiting different museums, zoos, parks, camps, or aquariums. It helps if the activity includes something hands-on like painting or taking care of animals that even young children can participate in.
- Let your kids know they can come talk to you about anything
It's important to know that your children can talk to you about anything, even if what they are going through is really hard. They may not want to tell you something for fear of hurting your feelings or making you angry. But don't let them think they have to go through this alone. Let them know that it's okay and normal for kids their age to feel embarrassed by certain things and there's nothing wrong with telling their parents when they need help!
- Don't forget about date night! It's important for parents to spend time together without their children
One of the most important things for parents to do is spend time together. One way to achieve this is by going on date night! It's important that your child knows you are still a couple and it's not just about them. Date night will also allow you two some much needed adult conversation time, which can be hard if you're constantly talking with kids! Set aside one day each week where one parent takes care of the other parent's duties and go out for dinner- even if it's just a walk around the block, I promise you'll feel refreshed afterwards.
You may not feel like you are doing enough for your child because of all the demands on your time and energy. But if you prioritize their needs, spend quality time with them, and also maintain a strict parental role in appropriate ways, it will be worthwhile to see how they grow up into healthy adults.